It was that episode on Sex and the City when Miranda was discussing how a guy she went out with declined to accept an invite to her place and called it an early night by saying he had to go home in order to prepare for a trip. He gave mixed messages. She made excuses, deciding he might have been confused, busy, or afraid of commitment. She spent a lot of time thinking about him, wondering what was in his mind.
Behrendt, a former executive story editor for Sex and the City, gives an honest answer to the scenario by advising people to stop wondering why when they have been rejected. Move on and look for someone or something else.
The book does not apply just to relationships, but also to job searches and promotions at work. The book explains that if someone was meant to be, the other party would go out of the way to chase after the person. If someone was the top candidate for a job, the employer would be going after him/her, not the other way around. In the end, there may be no explanation for rejection. Sometimes people reject others by just not calling. There is no formal written letter. Why waste time trying to determine the reasons. Do not attach to something that was not meant to happen.
By moving on, and not worrying about what passed, find new possibilities and realize that one was probably not really that interested in the opportunity that was not interested in him/her anyway.
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