The following a suggested methods for terminating conversations at social events. Rejecting someone in order to pursue other opportunities is not always easy so be sensitive in reading nonverbal clues, review the reactions of people.
One method is to make reference to the passing time. For instance, look at the food and comment that one must get some food before it is all gone. Another example, state that the band is packing up or that it is getting dark outside. The other person will take the initiative to leave the conversation. This lets the other person leave first.
It may seem rude to exit conversations, but why be tied down to unproductive conversations. The purpose of attending events is not to stand in one place all evening or afternoon and miss the opportunities and possibilities that can be obtained from meeting other people.
Do not care too much about what others think. It may not be nice, but do not take it personally.
Another technique is to give a reason to go. It does not matter if it is the truth or not, but honesty is usually preferred. For example, state that one must get some food. Another example, indicate one must use the restroom. Throw a compliment at the other person, do not just leave. For instance, "loved hearing about..." The compliment is about saving the other person from any embarrassment. There is no need to stay in unproductive situations.
Another method is to give a direct rejection. To offset the rejection, perhaps shake the other person's hand, or pat the person on the shoulder. Lean towards the person and say something nice. Start moving away from the person so that the person gives permission for the exit. Go in the direction one wants to go. Do not just be somewhere to be nice.
Learning to exit conversations allows one to take control of the social process. Do not be passive. If there is an agenda, tell people because people cannot read minds.
Exiting conversations shows respect for one's own time. When giving up an evening or afternoon to attend an event, one is giving up a moment in life. Make the most of social events.
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